TP - Lessons I've Learned, Trusting & The Brevity Of Life
Hello my friend,
As the end of 2024 looms closer I’ve been thinking about what I’ve learned so far this year.
These insights have really helped me move forward in different areas of my life.
Here are 10 lessons I’ve learned.
1. The most important things worth doing in life rarely feel productive. Yet they very much are.
2. Comparing ourselves with what other people are doing makes us feel we’re never doing enough.
3. Focusing solely on what is in our control is the best way to combat stress and overwhelm.
4. Setting unrealistic expectations for ourselves is the best way to create stress and overwhelm.
5. Everyday day cannot possibly be a “win” or a success. Drop unrealistic expectations.
6. Asking people we love for help is a gift for us and for them.
7. Slowing down can be best way to speed up.
8. The biggest risk we can take is by not taking any risk.
9. Life is not the Truman Show. Other people aren’t paying much attention to us. This is liberating.
10. Nearly everything we’re worrying about now we won’t remember in a month.
Things I’m learning
The true way to build trust.
“We don’t build trust by offering help, we build trust by asking for it.” - Simon Sinek
Give up the battle that you cannot win.
“The average human lifespan is absurdly, terrifyingly, insultingly short. But that isn’t a reason for unremitting despair, or for living in an anxiety-fueled panic about making the most of your limited time. It’s a cause for relief. You get to give up on something that was always impossible—the quest to become the optimized, infinitely capable, emotionally invincible, fully independent person you’re officially supposed to be. Then you get to roll up your sleeves and start work on what’s gloriously possible instead.” - Oliver Burkeman
Living with grief over time.
“My friend told me something beautiful about grief that I will never forget. They said that grief is like a stone and you carry it in your pocket. And you will always notice it and you will feel it. You will know it is there. But as time goes on, you get stronger. As so as you get stronger, it is not that the stone goes away, it’s just that it gets lighter. And it gets lighter to carry. But it does not mean that it is going away. You didn’t move on. You didn’t get over it. It doesn’t disappear. It does not get smaller. It stays the same. You just get stronger so the stone gets lighter.” - Jay Shetty
Question
What is a lesson you’ve learned but are still not applying?
That’s all for this week.
With love. Nick x
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